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Sexuality

"The ultimate reason (not the only reason) why we are sexual is to make God more deeply knowable."
- John Piper, Sex and the Supremacy of Christ

We Believe

We believe that sexuality is good and made by God for our sanctification, growing us in self-control, holiness, and honor (1 Thes 4:3-5). Whether we’re single or married, sexuality is a part of our lives that drives our desires to have relationships, to know and be known, and to feel valued and loved (Genesis 2:18). God created man and woman as sexual beings for pleasure, procreation, intimacy, and most importantly, to make Himself known more intimately to us (Eph 5:31-32).  One of the ways that God uses sexuality is through marriage between a man and woman.

What does the Bible say?

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;

But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desire of the flesh.

Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

“Women of Jerusalem, promise not to awaken or excite my feelings of love until it is ready.”

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.

Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.  The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.  Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.  I say this as a concession, not as a command.  I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.

But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

You shall not commit adultery.

Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality;

“Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.  I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

Why is this important?

While sexuality is good and made by God with purpose, intention, and beauty, it has also been affected by the brokenness of the human condition. But God is a redeeming God. He uses our sexuality, to make Himself known to us, draw us nearer to Him, and ultimately allow us to experience Him through our relationships. Understanding God’s purpose for sexuality gives us the opportunity to know Him more fully and become more like Him

Tell me more?

The church hasn’t always approached sexuality in helpful ways and in some ways missed the mark in discipling the people of God in His design for sexuality and loving image-bearers. These resources provide perspective and greater theological context on how God uses sexuality in the lives of His people and gives helpful insight on how to better love ourselves, our spouses, and one another. Every person is born with sexuality and learning how to steward our sexuality is a step toward reconciling broken trust in relationships, church, and God. While we do not necessarily agree with everything in these resources, we do find them to be helpful tools  in better understanding sexuality and how sexuality affects our daily lives.

Father God, help us to see one another the way You see us. Help us be people filled with compassion, recognizing that we have only a limited view of what You are doing in the lives of your children. Let us be people of grace who are quick to love and bear the burdens of our brothers and sisters. Help us know better what love should look like and how we can care for and be in relationship with people. Show us the areas in our lives where we are blind to our brokenness and show us through your Holy Spirit, how to have redemption in every area of our lives. Knit together the hearts of your people for your glory so much so that when the world sees us they would see our fruit and know that You are God. In Jesus holy name, Amen.

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